Problems with international dating
Of course online dating is still work, but the emotional labor and risk of failure has been significantly reduced.
Slater picks up on two unintended consequences of a low-friction dating market.
Even if you used to successfully online date, but have found yourself single again, it can be difficult to know exactly what sites you need to be surfing.
It’s why I’ve created this handy guide to the 11 best dating websites and apps available right now. • The 20 most useful dating websites This site describes itself as the way to meet ‘the most successful and attractive singles.’ It asks users to fill out their job title and education, and links to Facebook so you can view their social circle.
Or rather, it's just a small part of a bigger problem with online dating.
I collected certain kinds of 19th-century postal history (mailed envelopes) and I used to enjoy travelling from dealer to dealer digging through bins of musty postal history looking for the items that I collected. Collecting postal history has gone from a labor of seeking out interesting shops and sales and digging through musty boxes to one of logging on to e Bay, typing in a search request (19th-century postal history), and clicking on whatever envelope covers catch my eye. Now I realize that the economic language of frictionless markets isn't very romantic, but the fact is that the dating game is a kind of market whether we want to admit it or not.
The search process has for all practical purposes become frictionless, and the net result is that it just isn't fun anymore. Finding a partner used to be expensive, and the market was inefficient.
If you lived in a large city, there were always people looking for partners, but the problem was how to find them.
Pick-up bars were imperfect markets to say the very least.
Now you go online, select a partner, and you are immediately dating someone who is at least interested in you.