Dating your older brother39s friend
Keeping your thoughts limited to this tightly knit circle will also prevent you from blabbering your opinion about the new couple to everyone.
While we strongly suggest realizing there are many, many other fish in the sea, if you absolutely see nothing wrong with this and/or cannot bear to refrain from dating this person, here are a few tips to make sure you keep your friend: Talk to your friend: Ideally, you know that at best this situation is uncomfortable, and it's your job to talk to your friend.
Your new partner (your friend's ex) should as well, but remember that they have broken up, while you and your friend are still "together." An explanation of how important your friendship is to you and a sincere acknowledgment of the awkwardness of the situation might help.
Be honest: If you want to keep your friendship, the worst possible thing you can do is lie.
(*A note here: Of course, there are varying degrees of gravity -- a former fling may be less of a big deal than a serious relationship, and if we're talking about a recent ex-husband or ex-wife and your friend, well, then, we'll go out on a limb and say that perhaps you should reconsider your friendship unless there is an extremely unique circumstance.) If you've found yourself facing this situation as the person whose friend and ex are now dating, here are a few tips on how to handle yourself with style and grace: Have a support system handy: It's nice to ask one or two close friends to help you out.
They can keep you posted on what they see and hear about this new relationship, as it's never fun to be the last to know.